No it's not.

We are looking to see if your body language says yes or hit the road and It's usually the latter so we look and leave. A smile is just being polite, have you actually tried flirting?

Women in Vancouver have the worst body language, two left feet kinda, lot of verbal fumbling and usually have no interest in anything outside of their own life.

You are absolutely correct about women in The east, very easy to approach very easy to converse with and not very judgemental. Western women are very beautiful but also very judgmental and honestly kinda lazy....

And that is where you lost me.

"Sorry its gotta be you speaking first but that's nature"

really?

My grandmother asked out my grandfather and have been married for 52 years because she saw her man was busy and wanted him...

Smart woman she is.

My family was modern in the 50's, what's stopping you in 2016?

Two types of people on earth. Those who sit around praying and those who go out and do it.

"Sorry its gotta be you speaking first but that's nature."
No. Habit, culture, social norm...

sorry but we vancouver men have all the import babes we can handle. We know what we want and how to get it.

Just do the modern 'liberated' thing Ms and make that first hello yours. The world has changed and men have been feminized at the insistence of women. So step up

You could also replace "its gotta be you speaking first" with "it's gotta be you in the kitchen" or "it's gotta be you staying home with the kids" or "it's gotta be you earning less."

As a woman who has no problem approaching men, I have to tell you to get with the times and go after what you want, instead of making silly excuses about "nature." Otherwise, all the great men (and you're right, BTW, Vancouver has LOTS of great men) are going to be snapped up by ladies like me!

Good men chase women.

Great men attract women.

End of sob story.

Beautiful post. Nice to see a woman without the often mentioned Vancouver issues: such as economically not viable men, the best men all seem married, jealous of a friend who's happy, etc.

It can be really hard to talk to strangers. For people from either sex.

This confession person should soon find happiness, if her vibe is anything to go by.

Take note, uptight persons. Mostly you don't fool anyone but yourselves.

Most of the comments about my confession seem kinda harsh....some have missed my point entirely. I was confessing my desire for guys to speak once they see that I have positively responded to THEIR initial 'approach'. I didn't say that I refuse to say hi or hello first. I do and will. If I were to make the initial approach, then it’s up to me to speak right? What I was confessing was that wouldn't it be nice when he lobs the ball, and then I lob it back....not to stand and watch the ball roll over the racquet he’s mysteriously left on the ground. So I am neither ‘making excuses’ nor harbouring a ‘sob story’. Confessing that I desire a man (who wants to meet me) simply utter 'hi' after I smile back at his smiling at me, doesn't make me demanding, old fashioned or a whiner. To the body language critic: a genuine smile trumps body language 101 every time. My smile-back says I am ready to engage. I’m showing men that I enjoy the dance and that I am respecting their place in that dance. And to the real men/great men critic: I highly doubt the wisdom you shared. “Great men” likely don’t sit online bashing other people’s confessions. They’re just content with their greatness.

And holy-touchy-subject about my use of the word 'nature' too.
I feel I’m being honest about our nature(s). I’m not a feminist, nor a wallflower. I never chose sides. I’m just me. Maybe people don’t want to admit it (maybe it’s not cool enough) but I honestly feel that there are wonderful and intrinsic male and female actions and responses that are just simply male or female, naturally. No need to dissect it. To the female critic choosing to share that she’ll be out there ‘snapping them up'....well, good on her. Snap away. I am clearly not competition and have no desire to be. So what’s her beef? Makes me wonder why snap-lady (and the rest) are at home commenting negatively on my true confession in the first place. It’s My True Confession after all. Why the rush to judgement and the attempts to negate my true feelings?

In the end however, this did make me realize, that this was my first, and last, confession. But big smile to commenter “anonymous” for hearing the truth behind my words....I like my vibe too.

... lots of back peddling and explaining away. Maybe read what you write before posting .

You really are full of it.