Your ship hasn't left port, but it's always ready for departure. You have plenty of years for relationships. Be very selective of suitors and let them earn your trust. You can find someone good, it's absolutely possible. Anything is possible!

is very young, speaking as someone in their 60's. And there is more to life than having a bf or gf. Embrace your life and find the things that interest you and things will expand from there. btw, I didn't marry until age 36.

arrrr, best be walkin a few scurvy dog planks for the experience, or you'll soon grow barnacles on your clam shell.

Also, do you really think that judging being in a relationship based on one experience is reasonable? :)

Mine sailed the day i moved here because there is no love for blue collar men in BC. we simply float around in a lagoon of boredom.

Only white collar captains get to steer the love boat here.

I sometimes feel the same way. Sounds cliche but the important thing is to remember you're NOT alone. There are MILLIONS of people around the world who feel the way you do. There are also people with the same circumstances as you who are also wondering if there's something wrong with them or if life is always going to be this way. I personally was always tired of hearing, "Don't worry things are right around the corner, keep your head up." You can only "keep your head up" for so long and trust me I understand this one hundred percent. For myself I realized I had to find myself. I was putting so much importance on finding happiness in someone else whether I wanted to admit it or not. Finally one day felt like... wow I want to die. I sat there remember my grandmother always said, "Question everything." So I asked myself.. Why am I feeling like this. Why is this happening? The answer was very simply because I didn't love myself. I felt so unworthy of everything and everyone around me. That day I chose to just be happy. I chose to give myself unconditional happiness. Whether the anxiety of life was there or not I realized that I didn't deserve to feel like a bag of dirt. It doesn't matter what you've done in your past, it doesn't matter how much you worry about the future it won't change anything. All you ever have is now. This moment right now as you're reading this... this is all you ever have. Your ship has not sailed, it's simply slowly drifting into the bay and on it's way soon. Sometimes things take a detour and the best thing you can do it to say yes to the universe. Something bad happens... say yes. Don't go against it just accept it. Something good happens say yes. You deserve all the good in the world and unfortunately patience is something we all have to learn to get a grip of. If I had a nickle every time Murphy's law came knocking I'd be one rich motherfucker. When things go wrong laugh in its face and say guess what... This will pass. I wish you the best and please believe that you deserve it. Be kind to yourself. Things will come.

My life ship hasn't come in yet. I'm in my 30's but I still go to shows and dance and giggle like I'm stuck in my 20's. My love life reads almost exactly like yours. I have a job and I live on my own but some days it still feels like I've forgotten to grow up somehow. I can't believe I'm going to be 40 soon.

I'm exactly like you- 31 with no serious relationships really, and sometimes I also question whether my ship has sailed. But that's a dangerous trap to fall into. 30 is NOT old. We are just conditioned to that thought because twenty somethings dominate the media narrative. I changed my outlook this year. I started new hobbies, met new friends, gained new (and different) insights into the world and just started doing what I wanted to do. I stopped thinking of age and timelines and just began to live my life, and slowly realized that I have a pretty great one, even though it doesn't involve a significant other. My advice? Don't be afraid to take a chance. You're going to meet a LOT of the wrong people and yes, it's depressing and a bit soul crushing, but that's the way it goes. You can't always avoid the cheaters, the abusers and the jerks. Sometimes they come in packages that look like really decent, successful people. But you can make yourself into a person who is resilient and whole unto themselves, and who rolls with the punches. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of days where I feel as though I'm trying to untangle the ball of yarn that is my life, but ultimately, experience has become my purpose, good or bad. Just go out and live life. It might not fall into place, but it might, and at least you can say that you never gave up.