Okay so I was super hesistant on posting anything like this but I really need an outside perspective from both females and males. Hopefully you guys can give me some advice&insight. I have been dating my boyfriend now for 6 months, we were friends for a year beforehand. not super close back when we were friends..would talk here and there. We met online (we both are pretty big on social media and had mutual friends which brought us together) One huge thing that was a red flag for me was that he has 95% Female friends. all of which hes had a thing for/with in the past.. I have always been the type of girl who doesn't believe in opposite sex's being just friends. In my mind, its very very rare to find someone from the opposite sex to be friends without at some point someone catching feelings.. Anyways,, in the beginning I knew he had a female friend he was super close with. shes absolutely beautiful I cant even lie. All his friends are..which can be intimidating. She lives across the country though.. he goes there though and has visited her there vise versa. Now they have only sent pics to eachother in the past and kissed.. however, now they literally talk every single day all day..... like long paragraphs and she has been a huge huge huge problem in our relationship. He kept telling me to try and be friends with her so I went against my morals and tried multiple times. i always end up feeling not enough though. At one point he literally dropped me when I told him I couldn't be with him and he be this close to her.. He tells her everything..even about our problems..screenshots of things I SAY to him (i saw on his phone) Her and i became friends at some point. the thing is shes a nice girl. i actually started to confide in her at some point... but i always go through my funks because sometimes I will notice his mood drastically changes (were long distance) for example, hell be super dry texting but then all of a sudden a burst of energy will come and hes super happy. that's how i know hes texting her. I found pics of just her in his phone like just selfies and stuff and he just doesn't understand the problem with it or their friendship... I guess what I'm trying to get at is the other night he admitted to them having a platonic friendship...... I AM SO NOT OKAY WITH THIS. i currently have kept her close to just keep the peace but it makes my bones mad thinking about them texting all day and stuff. We have spoken on this numerous times. and he puts a timestamp on everything. his mom even said he puts friendships before family sometimes. I love him dearly, hes 28, has a career, someone I can see myself with long term,.. its just this problem that is a huge set back in our relationship. I also have caught her in numerous lies. showed him proof even, and he thought i tampered with the messages because "he knows her and knows she would never do or say that" .. even with screenshots and proof. In my mind, shes one of those really sweet females but lowkey manipulative and extremely brainwashing. she even had me fooled for a hot minute & i can read people VERY well. something isn't sitting right with me. till this day he tells me i always think negative. but everytime i feel like this something is going on.. something else iv noticed is whenever I'm with him shell blow my phone up like were besties and then as soon as i get home..ghost town. He looks at her at this angelic person. and i just don't trust their friendship. I'm not looking for someone to tell me to talk to him about this because that has already been done on multiple occasions and it just makes things worse. I don't want to keep bringing her up & giving her relevance either. I feel stuck and confused and don't want to be overreacting. what do I do? what is yalls take on this? :/