I've always had an obsessive personality and all the toxic traits that come with that. Obviously ex's are the red flag in that. Something drastically changed though, recently. An ex who went on the offensive(something maybe I deserved) while they were getting married ended up flaming out in the business world. Almost cos play as an owner. The two of them ended up gaining mass amounts of weight. They're in my neighbour hood so I see them whether I want to or not. They went through the process of losing the weight, but now both look like people after too much cosmetic surgery. stretched and messed up. I'm still a piece of sh*t, obsessive a**hole, but somehow also for the first time grossed out by an ex. confession out.