Its hard to start again, but it will be rewarding after you do it! You need to get yourself back out there and stop wallowing for a guy who clearly doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.

If your breakup is permanent, you will have to move on eventually. You could try to go on the dates just to see how ready/unready you feel. (I think your dates won't appreciate you cancelling on them now without any reason anyway. Just keep it low key coffee dates.) You might be surprised. In any case, you should slowly start to meet other people, go on friendly dates, etc. just to keep your mind off him if not to actually begin a new relationship. No rush. Perhaps, when you will find out that he has moved on, it will be easier for you to do so.

This guy may have moved on and so should you.

PLEASE do NOT meet or date anyone. You are not ready.
Do not use the "meet" thing to fix yourself or your hurt or loneliness.
Unless;
you are on POF. As that site is mostly used by people who are also unavailable, Either getting over an illness, or hurt, or injury, or just messing around and filling a void temporarily. Then the date 'meet' has no bases for anything then just a lonely club hook up.

However, IF you are on a legitimate dating site,(Most of these men are looking to meet a stable, fun, exciting, available woman) .. YOU are not in that zone yet. You by your own words are still in the EX head space.
No guy will put up with that, even on a meet. sure, he will hook up, but that's it. he will see you as a woman still licking her wounds from a bad break-up. That will definitely be a turn-off for him. just sayin.

I'd say, Cancel the dates. YOU need to resolve your own issues before you should even think about being there. Why bring a happy man into your misery.?

Because if you're feeling like this, then you're not ready. Please do not meet these people and tell them you're not ready yet. If they're good guys, they'll understand.

The LAST thing you want is to start a new, positive relationship when you still have emotional baggage. I'm telling you right now that is not a good idea and not fair to your new partner ok? Go out when you're ready. Dating isn't a race.... Wish you the best :)

You could have bigger problems than this. If this is the biggest issue you have in your life right now? Meeting someone you have never met before, over a cup of coffee? Then life is pretty sweet I'd say.

Because i believe having a nice innocent date out with an attractive friendly guy will be a great boost to your esteem. It will knock you out of the funk you're in. It doesn't have to go anywhere unless you want it too; it's just a casual coffee - it's meant to be fun! And if you do find it unsettling, wait a while to go out again. There is no drama.

A couple of drama queens above are making a huge deal about emotional baggage and pleaing with you not to do it... dear lord - it's a cup of coffee.

And you are in no way being unfaithful to your ex.

Don't go.
DO NOT use a new guy to get you out of the funk you created.
Why the hell waste his time when he could be having a blast with someone fun and stable.
seems like another self centered girl who just wants to be a downer and "dump her funk" on someone else. Not a guys jobs to make you feel better about your lousy breakup, I DONT want to hear it.
If I was the guy, i'd be pissed you wasted my time pretending to be looking to meet online when all the while you were still clinging to the ex.
NO wonder online dating gets a bad wrap. Its girls like you who are so scattered and flaky.

for online dating. You still love your ex and if the guys you're meeting for coffee don't live up to what you and your ex had, then it'll make it that even harder to get over him.

Well put, exactly how i think also. It's only women down voting you bet, they're such emotional baggage beings and go out when they're not ready? Eff me they are insane...