Why can't I let go of the ropes?

posted October 18th, 2017 at 9:18 AM

I replied : Because I made life easy for you. I took on 90% of all the work, and while I asked for help, you gave me minimal. So I had to overcompensate. You took advantage of me and you felt it was okay to do that. I was overworked and stressed and said so, so many times. But you ignored me. You only cared about what you wanted. You needed to do what you wanted to do, no matter what anyone else said. I only let it happen b/c we were married and I wanted to make it work. But machines don't work when only one part is doing the work. They get worn and need repair. They need to be changed.

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I get it....

Oct 18, 2017 at 11:34pm

I was in the same situation for 25 years....I thought I was just a progressive female successful in her career married to a guy out of luck....I was a shmuck and he was a loser taking advantage of my good nature. Then I woke up....I now live alone and I have never been happier than I am now.

The personal is political!!!

Oct 19, 2017 at 1:53pm

I am making the assumption that you are a woman. This is sadly not an uncommon story. This experience is shared with so many women across the world. It in part is what helped fuel the women's lib movement in the 60s. But the fight is not over yet. I hope you let your partner know how you feel. Give them an ultimatum!' The more women stand up for themselves, the less this mentality of "woman as other" existing only for their serviceability factor to man, will start to dissapear. The times.... they are a changing. No more unpaid labour!!! And how about universal child care while we are at it. It is long over due!!