One of the issues that created friction between myself and an ex was their refusal to say if they’d been seeing other people during a time when we were broken up. It was important to me because I wanted to know if they had just casually replaced me and moved on, and also because I knew they didn’t practice safe sex. I loved them so much that in spite of my unease I stayed with them anyway, but there was always this barrier of mistrust that prevented me from feeling truly comfortable or loved. Their response was always that it was none of my business, but I was open and truthful about my own dating (or lack of it , when that was the case) during times we were apart. It wasn’t that I didn’t think that they had the right to see other people when we weren’t together, it was more the fact that they were so secretive about it that bothered me so much. Like, if there’s nothing to hide then why would you be secretive? Am I wrong about how much this bothers me, or is it a normal feeling when it comes to an intimate relationship? We’re broken up again, and I think that their constant secretiveness definitely had an impact on me, and my willingness to commit.