selfish friend

I find myself distancing from a friend because they constantly want to meet up only to talk non stop about themselves and all their relationship problems. I have had enough on non reciprocal relationships and people who don't value my time and energy.

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Some people

Jul 29, 2021 at 3:10pm

just want to hear themselves talk. My friend loves going on and on about his grievances with social justice and wokeness. He doesn’t realize how boring and cliched he sounds.

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I noticed

Jul 29, 2021 at 5:44pm

Usually when a friend calls it texts it usually to blow their horn about a job promotion or a trip they're planning.

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Commonplace

Jul 29, 2021 at 6:08pm

Yes my friend always wants to tell me the worst things about her boyfriend. Then tries to defend him after I support her by saying she deserves better. It's really quite confusing, I don't know what she wants me to say. She told me to block my ex but she keeps getting back together with hers?

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Sounds like

Jul 29, 2021 at 8:31pm

Your friend needs a different friend.

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Have you tried telling them?

Jul 29, 2021 at 10:30pm

Since they're losing your friendship anyway, neither of you have much to lose if you talk about this. This friend needs to see a counselor, since they're obviously stuck on this.

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A self-absorbed Vancouverite you say?

Jul 29, 2021 at 11:13pm

I couldn't imagine…

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Not alone

Jul 30, 2021 at 7:41am

This exactly just happened last weekend lol

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Yes and no

Jul 30, 2021 at 7:50am

Those conversations are an opportunity for you to be y as well. Speak up!

Conversations are two-way.

I like talking about my grievances too (especially after all the isolation but am just as ready to listen, to my frieinds' too.

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@commonplace

Jul 30, 2021 at 3:59pm

Are you me?? I was recently experiencing the same thing with my best friend. Finally told her I'm not going to support her in her decision to stay with her borderline abusive bf and that I'm not going to participate in conversations where she complains about him anymore. Haven't heard from her in over a month now! I have a feeling she thinks she's punishing me by witholding contact . . . the truth is, not being on call 24/7 for her crisis management has been great for my stress level! I'm done having one-sided friendships with adults who refuse to take responsibility for their own decisions and actions.

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One way street friendships, you say?

Jul 30, 2021 at 5:02pm

I'm shocked, SHOCKED I tell you.

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