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Friends always go out

Even during Covid, my friends go out and do stuff. I sent them one picture of me at a bar after I went out like one night during the whole pandemic, and now they want me to wear a mask or not hang out. Mostly I am just social distancing, going to the gym, or visiting the rents. They're out smoking cigarettes and drinking though while socializing.

Just don't understand it

Our economy just seems to keep on growing even if recessions and pandemics keep on hitting us. I am not complaining, but... I do wonder how this is possible. I suppose we are fortunate, even though the benefits are unevenly distributed.

Hey Translink!

I don’t know why this pisses me off so much. They tell us masks are mandatory but I don’t see their employees wearing them. Bus drivers, sky train attendants(never see masks) and even the transit police. What message does this send to us?

On Love and Completeness

The manic pixie dream girl was supposed to complete me! In the Hollywood plot the male protagonist is generally doing fine but needs to save the hot slightly moody creative girl from her slight moodiness, and she can in turn save him by being hot and creative. Instead, she turned out to be far more complicated, and the glimpses into her life made me wonder what the hell was wrong with me if this is the love I think I deserved. I wanted sex not existential crisis!

heart beats

Only seen my love interest for a few brief moments,felt my heart swell.downtown...harbour center around 3:30ish pm. You'd think after 5 years of zero nil contact that Id be over you. Still though ....many have tried ...but none of them are you. :)

Best night under the stars

Typically I wouldn't meet with strangers. However,a few months ago I got to talking with this tall dark and mysterious man. His roomates were out of town,and invited me (and 3 othors )and my pup over for a bbq. Even went to buy some red wine,yet sort of confused me when he was flirting with the short blonde chick. BUT,after waiting to get into the bathroom after drinking a few rounds-he kissed me discretely. Lol...later on that evening he was holding her hand.Asked if I wanted to "sit closer". I went for it ...that got some nearby pedestrians pointing at us. What got me fucked up was thay joint,seriously staggered down to the beach,and they followed with a blanket and pillows. Didnt quite expect to wake up to the sun,with these humans... Made for an interesting turn of events... I really wish I didnt sneak away at 5am without getting # Wondering if I could spring up by that place unanounced.

I want to tell him I love him

I already know he loves me, even though he hasn't said it (has eluded to it many times, but knows it might scare me away). I don't want to complicate things, or have our relationship change because I'm happy, satisfied, and healthily comfortable. He knows it and I know it so why bother right...But tonight I thought to myself, if something were to happen to one of us, how I'd dread never physically saying "I love you" in a very honest and meaningful way. And the romantic in me is thriving at the idea. But such things can't be undone, and I'm equally scared of changing something so good. *sigh*

I believe in me

My life has been in a downward spiral for some time now. I have coped with multiple medical problems, lost a career and my financial future as a result, been in an emotionally abusive on and off relationship that has drastically affected my feelings of confidence and self esteem, and I’ve just generally looked (from the outside) as though I’m a complete mess. I’ve withdrawn from most people and have experienced depression, that’s true. However, those issues have been just steps along my path. I’m on an inner journey that no one can see. I’ve always had this internal faith that somehow I will be okay. I’ll land on my feet once again. I’ve turned inward because the outside world kept hurting me and I needed to step away from it in order to regain some sense of who I am now, and stop comparing myself to who I was before life broke me so badly. But those people who choose to sit in judgement of me without having the benefit of knowing my internal story, keep insisting that I need to do what they think I should do. That somehow me panicking, being afraid, and running around frenetically will make everything all better. But if they could see inside my head they’d see not only the despair, but my inner calmness about it as well. The steps I’m taking may not be obvious to anyone else who can only view them from the outside, but that doesn’t mean that I’m not taking them. It’s just that when you’re teetering on the edge of a volcano, you need to take very cautious steps to avoid falling into the inferno. So I’d just like those people who are annoyed watching me not “doing” anything to either stop looking or talk to me about what’s really going on and why. I’d appreciate some of the support and trust that I’ve so freely offered to them for their whole lives. Telling me how to do it your way is entirely unhelpful and actually makes things more difficult and confusing to someone who is doing their utmost to keep their head above the water line and out of the inferno. Right now I’m still swimming even though at times I’m just treading water. I’m very good at it you see. I’ve had a lifetime of saving myself and I don’t intend to stop now.

I tend to swipe left on all of them

They are all imperfect in so many ways that online dating is a disaster. I would to meet my hollywood hunk boy toy.


... that going thru this winter makes me anxious. I’m not, and have not ever been, a stay at home type of person. But I’m very risk adverse and all those things I used to do (gym, movies, clubs, bars, restaurants) are off limits. So what am I going to do with myself? I can only go jogging for so long. What am I going to do when it’s dark at 4pm, raining and there’s nothing going on and I avoid all my friends again for the next 6 months? I guess get a headlamp and just walk around the city? How is everyone else planning on getting through winter?


Exchanged glances at Joe’s Cafe

I was sitting at the window at Joe’s Cafe with my girlfriend on Wednesday September 23rd around...


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