Not Worth It
posted January 23rd, 2019 at 4:58 PM
My best friend keeps seeing this younger guy who is emotionally abusive to her. She thinks that at her age she can't do any better and puts up with it. I say they deserve much more.
posted January 23rd, 2019 at 4:58 PM
Dan offers some advice on where she might find it.
You were consoling a client, a younger woman who was crying. My guess is that you are her...
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Jan 23, 2019 at 6:35pm
It is MUCH better being single than in a shitty relationship, but it’s hard to do if you’re not used to loving yourself BY yourself (and I don’t mean masturbation!) Hopefully your friend eventually sees the value in being alone with her wonderful self, over trying to make something shitty work, just because she thinks being single = being unloved. Or, in other words - If you can’t love yourself, how the HELL you gonna love anybody else!
Best quote
Jan 23, 2019 at 6:58pm
"We all get the love we think we deserve."
Note the WE THINK in that sentence. And a sentence it certainly is, for your friend. Self-imposed.
There's no wrong answer when the choice is based strictly on belief. People believe all sorts of nonsense - the Earth is flat, humans are ethical, nature is kind...
How would you prove her wrong?
In my experience
Jan 24, 2019 at 9:08am
It's the younger women who are desperate for relationships. The older ones won't put up with crap.
Best to...
Jan 24, 2019 at 12:57pm
play within your own league.
Anonymous
Jan 24, 2019 at 1:03pm
I would say mind your own business, I'm guessing your single with not much go in on in your own life
@In my experience
Jan 25, 2019 at 6:04pm
Not necessarily true. Older women tend to think of themselves as independent and in tune with their sexuality but older men chasing younger partners are criticized for their immaturity and wanting someone they can control. See the double standard? I think older women chasing younger men also have a mid-life crisis and want someone they can control. Look for example, Demi Moore who married Ashton Kutcher who's the same age as her kids. She went through a crisis when he left her.
I now know
Jan 25, 2019 at 7:04pm
Sometimes there are life styles choices and maybe other type situations where older and younger just click. They both are probably like "Wtf this is absolutely crazy I should be banging my head off the wall, instead of well.. them and saying "how can I get rid of this idiot" See I know now true love is not a thing you choose if you did it's not true. It happens without warning is over whelming confusing and if you survive this initial stage the MOST meaning experience one can live. Two will always be stronger than one and two only happens when 2 people trust ,believe and can not live without each other. No not in the CD manner you poor lost souls are thinking about blasting me for right now. To understand you'll need to wait until real happens. Sorry.
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