In love with my best friend but he doesn't know
posted March 18th, 2019 at 2:06 AM
I am in love with my best friend. I only started to see them romantically in the last year. But now I cant stop wanting to be my best friends girlfriend. I see him date a lot of girlfriends. But none have been serious. I started to see him in a different light when I had been cheated on with the boyfriend I was dating at the time. I was so hard but my best friend made me feel so comfortable and helped me get through that depressed mood I was having when my boyfriend had cheated on me. Is it werid that I want my best friend now. He is nice, funny, athletic, open minded and spontaneous. But he's dating someone right now it's been about a week since he started dating her it normally lasts about a month or so. I feel like I want to tell him I love him but I dont know if he feels the same way. And I don't want to lose him as a friend. What should I do?
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Mar 18, 2019 at 8:51am
Ask how it's going with this one, and mention if it doesn't workout the two of you could try giving it a shot. If you two are already in each other's space a lot, and are enjoying the company, I don't see how it can't work out. If it doesn't work out, I think if you really still want to be friends, you are going to remain friends. I think it would work out, but you need to drop it out there, because you never know, this one maybe the one that actually gets him, but it's only been a week, so the bonding is still in it's initial stages.
Good question
Mar 18, 2019 at 9:42am
Who knows the answer though, many have tried. I'm sure outcomes must vary. So a better question is I guess, can you keep on feeling the sharpest of sadness watching that happen. Them being with others while you seem to matter less and less?
You sound really young
Mar 18, 2019 at 11:15am
The fact you’re the girl in the situation tells me you should tell him. I was the girl in those situations and when my guy friends told me how they felt, it wrecked the friendship because I just thought of them as friends. If you think he may have feelings for you then go ahead and tell him but if he doesn’t, beware the consequences.
That's why
Mar 18, 2019 at 1:34pm
I never date anyone with opposite sex best friends.
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Mar 18, 2019 at 4:29pm
Women's advice to me is to break off communications with people I'm attracted to because pretending to be only interested in them as a friend is a betrayal in their friendship. I don't know, if a woman I thought was only interested in me as a friend told me they were attracted to me I'd be ecstatic.
Life is short
Mar 20, 2019 at 2:04pm
Tell him
Become friends again.
Jun 20, 2019 at 5:45pm
I have been trying so hard to get this girl friend of mine to give us a redo. I keep our relationship focused on the friends aspect, for good reason. I believe lovers are almost always much better when they come from an enduring friendship. I can not get past this part of telling her I love her. I do love her yes, I am in love with her yes. When she hears the word love all hell comes calling, and it can be very scary. I can not get enough time to explain my view that we are and have been going through a very difficult period fraught with miss ques and miss deeds. There has been many a misunderstanding also. So for us to try and pick up and move into a romance is surely suicide.
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