I've lost that loving feeling
posted September 8th, 2019 at 2:45 AM
My "ex" is trying to hoover me. Too bad...for them... because I lost interest. They're just an anybody now and I ignore their attempts to anonymously contact me. That's what happens when one takes love for granted, pushes you away and ignores you. You forget what they meant to you because they waited too long, and all the feeling and sentiment has evaporated.
The moral of the story is that it doesn't pay to be too sure of one's self when "the deal" was never sealed.
18 Comments
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Sep 8, 2019 at 7:25pm
"I ignore their attempts to anonymously contact me."
are you talking esp ???
Drama Tides
Sep 8, 2019 at 10:02pm
Takes love for granted? Are you sure they didn't tell you how they felt about you? So you could use it to manipulate them? Then when they asked for space to get over it so at least they could be friends with you again one day, you threw tantrums instead? Guilted them back over and over?
Mine was worse
Sep 9, 2019 at 7:55am
The only records of communication that I ever got (and I saved all of them) from my so-called "lost love" was coldness, rudeness, dismissiveness, meanness, devaluing and eventually their telling me they hated me. Really. It was an actual "f-you I hate you" in the heading in all caps. And then the real kicker is that they still messaged to say hello after! Nothing but gross mind games the whole time. I wish I never met them. I blame a bully boss for suggesting we meet. She thought we'd be a good "match". Never listen to awful people, they just set you up for trouble. She probably knew he was like this. I wouldn't be surprised. Nothing good came from the place we met, especially the people. It's like a toxic mess that sticks to your shoes and keeps following you. Huge regrets. He fooled me big time.
@drama whatever
Sep 9, 2019 at 1:51pm
No, sorry buddy, you're thinking of someone else. I kinda smirk when you mention feelings. They don't feel guilt or remorse. They don't have a conscience, or even empathy. They are a block of wood that played the back and forth games of innuendo (and occasionally jealousy when they saw hints of anyone else gaining my attention)without conscience to kill time and found, by accident, a person who stirred their feelings more than they thought possible. That can be scary for someone like that. But unfortunately, when they got affirmation of feelings being mutual, they saw it as too easy, got bored and then backed off, devaluing everything under the sun. Over and over it went, like how a cat plays with its prey. We both know how we felt, and they did a thorough job of ruining it. The person you describe did none of what you portrayed, which is how I know you speak of someone else. I mean guilt...they can't feel that. They're a bully and a coward from youth onward. They don't have the capability of feeling much more than low esteem and malevolence for anyone who feels and expresses far more beyond the narrow range they are stuck with. Envy, maybe, and their pride will obscure any admission of that.
You can't be anything with someone playing games to maintain control while toying with another to get attention. It ends up revealing that it's all about them and them alone and the epiphany hits that there was never anyone else in their equation of happiness but themselves. Plus, they constantly blew trust because they themselves can never trust, creating a self-fulfilling prophesy where it's better to be right than to be vulnerable. Instead they would always do or say something to crush any built trust. Each time they did added to the push away that I felt within. Very effective.
I don't feel happy when I think of them, or sad. I don't feel angry, either (I know, the description is biting, but it's objectively honest and I can't express non-verbal cues that would validate this so you'll have to just go with it), or even pity. Just tired...of who they were, their games, their selfishness, their everything. They earned everything they have and are, and I get to close the door and walk away, especially when I see them try to reach out, out of the blue.
Ya
Sep 9, 2019 at 3:41pm
I agree with buddy up there
You have esp
How do you know they anonymously contacted you Trolly?
Cause you have gotten into their phone somehow.
Interesting.
Oops did you slip up again dumbass.
Redacted
Sep 9, 2019 at 9:16pm
Yup as clockwork. So exhausting, so predictable. Lock the doors, bar the windows. Their loss.
Hit the nail on the head
Sep 10, 2019 at 3:42pm
Bar the door lock the windows.
Whatever you have no idea.
You never had that loving feeling.
So you have lost nothing.
You gained a lot previously many moons ago,
but nothing lost.
Cause you really did do absolution nothing.
But lie your ass off.
Remember that.
No more boohoo for you!
Thanks @Hit
Sep 10, 2019 at 7:11pm
Yes, you described the hoovering "ex" perfectly: a liar. A cheat. A manipulator. And a wounded child who can't accept rejection. Also, they can't feel love because they don't love themselves. So they take that self-hate and inject it to whoever shows them what they can't feel. They can't apologize for their past behavior, and can't relate to feelings, so they can't love, but, like an underdeveloped child, when they don't get their own way they can get angry. All this has been revealed by such messages to put down the initial post, and it's fitting as a reminder of the real Dumb Toddler that's being ignored. That's how I'll remember them...if I bother to remember them at all. They were, in the end, rather forgettable, nobody in particular and easily replaced. So no tears here. Never were any, and never will be.
Thanks!
@Thanks
Sep 10, 2019 at 11:52pm
Why would you reject someone you were interested in?? Thanks A LOT from the side that had to deal with a hot/cold mindfuck. Lots of tears were shed here despite that I "can't relate to feelings". But that well dried up years ago.
Never had a pen pal
Sep 11, 2019 at 4:25am
But this is fun. That's what it's meant for. The loving feeling was lost night one. Remember? We walked in together and you left me to sulk in the corner and leave alone: Welcome to Snotsville Street.
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