I am from an angry culture
posted January 11th, 2020 at 6:38 PM
I seriously am, but I grew up in Canada...
The weird thing is I feel this anger, but there is no way to express it casually in Canadian culture without people getting upset. I wonder if there is a genetic reason that I experience anger and if it is lost upon most Canadians because they are from other parts of the world originally.
I just wonder.... I know... It's probably cultural, but I wasn't really exposed, so I don't know how that would happen. I think we may have slight differences in us, but I am not a geneticist. I don't really know, and it's hard to find any information on except for genetic markers that result in slight increases in genetic diseases, heart disease, types of cancer, etc.
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Post a Commentcorny
Jan 12, 2020 at 7:39am
What culture is that?
The Obvious
Jan 12, 2020 at 9:26am
Everyone is angry right now. Really, it's not you, it is endemic to our culture as you say. The middle finger became standard communication a couple decades ago. Not too long ago, if you called someone on their driving, you'd have more apologetic looks and less back talk. Now, you risk your personal safety. Rage can be ignited with a comment.
Anger is not genetic
Jan 12, 2020 at 11:13am
It is emotional and a sign of mental health issues.
You need counselling, exercise, meditation, yoga.
Whatever helps but don’t blame this on anyone else.
No effing way!
Jan 12, 2020 at 1:16pm
Just kidding. I’m also from a cultural background where we’re known for having a quick temper. We also laugh and sing a lot, so it’s not all bad. : ).
Human disposition
Jan 12, 2020 at 4:19pm
Understanding why can be helpful, but there isn't always an answer. More importantly I hope you have a healthy outlet. Learn to kickbox, etc.
Anonymous
Jan 12, 2020 at 6:15pm
The English and French have what it called the “short form” gene that produces less serotonin. I'm sure that plays a role in how Canadians have been socialized for 160 years.
Anger...
Jan 13, 2020 at 7:30am
... Is not a sign of mental health issuez. The issue is the right amount of anger at the right person at the right time. So says Aristotle. Moderation is key.
we're all angry
Jan 14, 2020 at 1:41pm
And by "we" I mean people who grew up in a "traditional" culture where the children were forbidden to give opinions (indeed, were not even permitted to show displeasure with adult directions), and where the teaching method involved much yelling and smacking.
These methods yield a superficially compliant youth, who grows up to be a testy, physical adult.
If this is you, then the anger issue is both normal and not your fault. It is, however, your responsibility to deal with.
Just thinking it through helped me a lot with this rage. I realized that I owed my wife and kids at least the same amount of patience I would give to a random stranger in public, meaning that I just cannot ever be yelling or throwing things around like a monkey.
And we do live in a part of the world rich with therapists and counselling and I find that helps too.
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