Skinny lover

posted September 24th, 2016 at 11:45 AM

I like petite, skinny girls. Im not sorry about it. Skinny girls are hot. I get shit for it from my 'curvy' female friends. They look with contempt at the girls I choose. Im a skinny guy, I like girls that are smaller than me. I know its super cool these days to praise big women with curves blah blah. But shitting on skinny people is just as bad as shaming fat people. We dont choose our bodies! Stop comparing yourselves! Every body is beautiful in its own way.

4 Comments

Narrative vs. actual experience

Sep 24, 2016 at 3:39pm

So I'm not going to argue with you - it's never cool if anyone tells you who to be attracted to, and/or shames anyone's body type.

That said, while I agree that the narrative around body types has changed (i.e. 'hey all types of bodies are beautiful!'), that doesn't necessarily mean people of all body types have the same positive experiences when it comes to actually having their body type valued as 'attractive'. It's still pretty common for guys to want to be bigger than their partners, and vice versa, and this equation tends to mean that bigger girls just get left out a lot more. It sucks, and it isn't fair.

I guess I'm trying to say that while your friends' behaviour isn't cool, at all, it's probably more driven by how they're feeling about themselves and their situations, than anything to do with you.

If you think

Sep 24, 2016 at 4:24pm

every body is beautiful but only prefer one type, I think you're full of sh*t.

we like what we like....

Sep 24, 2016 at 6:58pm

we all have our personal preferences. It is one thing to say, "I have an attraction to petit, slender women." It is another thing to say that other women are "ugly" or somehow not worthy of anything (including work, if they are wait staff - adequate tips for their service, general courtesy, etc).

I am a plus sized, curvy woman. I don't expect everyone to be sexually attracted to me. I am not sexually attracted to every man I see (I am speaking as a cis and hetero female - the same applies to other genders and orientations). That's okay. I do not call "skinny guys" ugly and I value them for who they are. It's not just guys that I want to fuck that I am considerate towards.

Keep going out with women who are attractive to you (physically, emothionally, and spiritually). Treat all women (friends, acquaintances, colleagues and all you come across) with respect and courtesy as well. As a bigger gal - I would have no problem with you.

Stringbean

Oct 9, 2016 at 4:22am

Sex is the entrance to the house of love. Once inside we'lk never leave. True love provides a rich interior. Monogamy can be the most passion- filled,romance- crammed space on the broad boardwalk of life. What to say to make you come again?