I feels so stupid

I have been with my bf for 2 years and we live together and I am miserable all the time. I work 2 jobs full time to pay the bills and he hasn't really worked for 2 years. He might work a month in a year doing painting or security work and then he gets fired and its always someone else's fault. I just have so much anger when I come home and the apartment is a mess and hes playing video games on the couch. There is nothing physically or mentally wrong with him. Hes just lazy. I blame myself because I let it drag on for so long because I have low self esteem because I used to think I deserve this but I deserve better. We got into a big fight and I couldn't take it anymore and threw him out. He can live in his mom and dads basement. This isn't a rant about men in Vancouver its just about me and him and I am sorry about ranting. I am just in tears because I love him so much and this jerk never once got me a birthday gift or told me I was beautiful. Working two full time jobs, doing all the laundry, all the cooking and cleaning just took a huge toll on me and I reached my breaking point because its just too much. I just feel so stupid because I wasted 2 years of my life on this jerk.

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Anonymous

Aug 17, 2018 at 5:40am

I have the hots for you.

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Smart

Aug 17, 2018 at 6:17am

You’re smart to throw him out! Now is the most vulnerable and important time for you though, because if you still have feelings for him you might find yourself missing him and “forgetting” all of the very valid reasons for why you ended it. From your description of the situation you were dealing with a narcissist, and freeing yourself from one of them can be extremely difficult. Just maintain no contact with him until your feelings eventually fade, because if he’s true to form you’ll be receiving a call from him sooner or later hoping that you’re vulnerable enough to let him back into your life.

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Being.....

Aug 17, 2018 at 7:15am

the significant bread winner isn't all it's cracked up to be...hey.

Anonymous

Aug 17, 2018 at 7:16am

That's so awful! I'm so sorry you were caught up by love for so long, but I'm really happy for you that you're free from him now. Don't feel stupid - it's all a part of learning and growing up. I'm sure your next relationship will be better, because now you know what isn't good enough for you. You deserve a kind partner who does their share.

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Just a reader

Aug 17, 2018 at 9:23am

Keep your head up, you're not wasting another 2 :) There's plenty of life out there yet!

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don't fret

Aug 17, 2018 at 9:42am

seems like you are a great catch. find someone who is motivated in life. Seems this spilt is for the better. Be strong

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Troll alert

Aug 17, 2018 at 10:16am

From the same people who bring you the rants about how "women believe that all men in Vancouver are lazy sloths who live in their parents' basement." Keep trying, bud.

Sister from another mister

Aug 17, 2018 at 10:17am

Don't beat yourself up over this sweety. Many women are socialized to please others, and that can lead to being taken advantage of by assholes. But you kicked him out, good for you! Celebrate your strength and this learning experience and live your life free of this pain in the behind. Peace sister!

Anonymous

Aug 17, 2018 at 1:16pm

hell girl you should only hate yourself for not doing it sooner! GOOD JOB!!! you git what's yours, you don't let no one take advantage of you. look at everything you do not as something you OWE but as your ASSETS. you are a tough cookie and you'll find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. your ex seemed to want a mom more than a gf.

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@Being

Aug 17, 2018 at 1:27pm

Not when ALL the other household responsibilities for both people are dumped on them too.

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