Need to wait

posted October 13th, 2018 at 8:33 AM

I confess that I met this amazing man we both saw each other and there was sparks,so we meet days later and have a great first date.Untill we make out in his car and due to that time of the month I can’t go all the way with him.i didn’t think I need to tell him why I couldn’t have sex with him as it was our first date but made plans to see each other in a few days.yesterday was in his hood and called to hook up and no answer .I wanted him so badly and was ready now but nope no reply.I confess sometimes a man needs to wait a few days for us ladies and not take the rejection so personal.

5 Comments

Seriously?

Oct 14, 2018 at 8:34am

Bullet dodged. Move on.

What the?

Oct 14, 2018 at 2:00pm

This shouldn’t need to be said, but here goes anyway....if you go out with someone and don’t have sex with them for whatever reason, and then they ignore you afterwards, they’re just not that into you. If all they want from you is your body, is that what you’re looking for in a guy? If so, great, but otherwise just be thankful that you found out before you had sex with a db.

@OP

Oct 14, 2018 at 3:23pm

the issue in society is we assume and don't communicate about taboo things. you could have told him you are having your period and feel wheezy/uncomfortable having sex with him in that state of your body/hormones/mind. Also, telling a guy you don't sleep in bed right away and that it takes time to get to know each other before sex/making love, would be wise. Personally from my own experiences, i would rather wait for marriage/full commitment before sleeping with my truelove. we in essence are designed to find the truelove of our lives (emotional, physical, psychological, mental, belief attunement) before becoming serious and sleeping with them. You will know when you fall in love rather than just lust or kindness being the only factors.i hope this info helps :) <3

Anonymous

Oct 14, 2018 at 6:48pm

And not to punish, shame, or try to coerce someone when they say no.

He's just not that into you

Oct 15, 2018 at 9:24am

Men in this city can't afford the time to see you again or get to know you before they sleep with you. If you won't sleep with them on the first date, for whatever reason, then it's over. It's an efficient way of living life.