Life is too short man. Either talk to your wife about it. Role play or do something to make it actually interesting again. There's lots of ideas online nowadays to help you. But no one should feel the way you feel. You should seek all options before you sleep around :)

Do some research on post-menopausal women. You might be surprised by what you learn.

There are a couple older, successful men that I know who have agreements with their wives about this situation. Who am I to judge?

The internet and your hand may be a part of the problem. If you keep watching porn and wanking to new attractive girls, you are probably not going to have much desire and attraction for your familiar wife. Maybe she doesn't feel sexy, because she can sense that you are not really hungry for her. Try to stop looking at erotica and stop ejaculating for a few weeks. Then move on her with the raw animal lust that you will feel. I could be way off of course. But just make sure you include yourself and your actions in the picture instead of putting it all on her.

Or you could ask her why she doesn't want to have sex with you, and go from there.

The problem is my wife has no interest in sex, I've tried everything that I could think of, even suggested counseling but she has no interest in trying. Believe me I would rather have sex with my wife that do porn

My partner's marriage is celibate, and even though they love each other very much, the sex doesn't work for them. So.... that's where I came in... and believe me, I say this with so much heart-felt emotion... PLEASE DON'T HAVE AN AFFAIR... and use some other poor (stupid) woman like myself to SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE!. If it's not working for you guys, I'm truly sorry, but you either accept the commitment you made, or you leave her. Don't pull someone else into your dysfunctional marriage. It's not fair the other woman. Even though people think we are greedy selfish bitches out to ruin lives and break up families... some of us are just plain DUMB. And that was me... and now many years later, I'm still 2nd to his loving wife, sitting her with zero self-esteem.
It's your life, but.... either be married...or don't be married. good luck.

Yup, once a year sounds familiar. I blew up my marriage and then I remembered Ann Landers of all people said every 6 weeks you should get some wine and some chocolate, check into a motel and treat your wife like a hooker.

Should have done this myself. Couldn't hurt.

No ones dies from lack of sex. It's not the same as food, water, shelter or companionship. Ask yourself why it's so important.

you are going to pay. sucka!

@David

Uh, because you only have one life, and a relatively narrow of window in it to even have sex?

Sex is not optional in marriage. Just go pro and see if it works for you.