Forever Single

posted November 28th, 2017 at 8:54 PM

I'm 24, go to university, graduating in the next couple years with a bachelors degree & a guaranteed solid career, hardworking, outgoing. I'm a decent looking Asian girl and I work out. People are surprised when I tell them I'm single cause I seem to be the "ideal" girl for most guys. Whatever that means. I've tried online dating apps. Had a really bad experience with it. Dated a few guys, never worked out. Some people tell me I'm intimidating to approach, which is why guys never make the first move. Am I too picky or is it just hard in general to meet people here? And are guys just afraid to talk to girls?

24 Comments

how do you know

Nov 28, 2017 at 11:19pm

your degree will lead to a solid career ?

Pretty clear

Nov 28, 2017 at 11:28pm

Blah blah blah I'm so certain that I'm amazing but I have no idea why I am single but I guess I'll just sneak in that maaaaybe it's because I'm too picky but then probably not.

You're too picky or you suck.

OKCupid

Nov 29, 2017 at 4:03am

I've heard that Asian women get the most responses out of any group when it comes to online dating. I'm surprised to hear you've had a bad experience with it. Vancouver men aren't "afraid" to approach anyone. We just instinctively know that there's a hierarchy and rules when it comes to dating in Vancouver. We aren't allowed to approach just anyone. We have to know "our place." My guess is that men size you up, figure out that they don't have a chance, and don't want to bother you by approaching. I think you're having trouble because there's only so many single, good-looking white guys with solid careers like yours that are available. Such is life I guess...

Anonymous

Nov 29, 2017 at 6:40am

It's hard to meet people. I'm 27 and people keep claiming I'm attractive, and my longest relationship was a year and a half. Ps. there's no such thing as too picky. You shouldn't date someone who doesn't make you happy.

There's a difference between

Nov 29, 2017 at 6:45am

Being afraid and not willling to be a material for girls ego boost. I will never be used for that purpose. That's the reason why I don't approach locally

Natty

Nov 29, 2017 at 7:22am

You're 24. Lots of time. No complaining about the dating scene just yet!

Mitch

Nov 29, 2017 at 7:36am

"Guaranteed solid career"....no such thing these days I'm afraid.

therobotmonster

Nov 29, 2017 at 9:44am

Yes guys are afraid to approach, and it is getting worse. The recent wave of sexual assault accusations has made men even more terrified, and our current culture makes men look like rapists for wanting to say hi to a girl.

VancouverFemme

Nov 29, 2017 at 11:11am

Hey, don't stress about it. You'll meet the right guy when the time is right. It happens in their teens for some people, but others for whatever reason have to wait for years. I met the right guy when I was 29. Maybe you're meant to learn some thing about yourself first. Don't give up on trying to find the right person, he could come to you through a friend, online dating, or in some random encounter. Meanwhile, enjoy life!