Can't find my soul tribe

I find people usually misunderstand me or feel I am giving off bad vibes. So I finally give up trying to make friends or connect with anyone after constant rejections.

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Anonymous

Feb 26, 2020 at 11:51pm

Very common experience I think
Easy to ostracize for perceived differences
Groups are like that, there's always one that doesn't belong
And humans are by nature tribal
Now, some tribes are supportive...

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Yeah it must

Feb 27, 2020 at 6:13am

be them. Couldn't possibly be you, could it?

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Anybody Out There

Feb 27, 2020 at 8:11am

You're fine. You sound like a good person.
Don't let these weirdos inexplicably make you feel bad about yourself.
Definitely don't stop putting yourself out there over fears of rejection like these overgrown babies, leading to bitterness. It's not worth following in their footsteps, a dark cold future alone, every day spent in isolation, increasing chances of mental illnesses.
Get out of the train of thought of entitlement that everyone owes you friendship and connect with you off the bat. People have their own preferences and traits of what they're looking for and it won't always mesh up with your own preferences.
Keep being you! Be kind, the right ones will be drawn to you and accept you as you are.

yep

Feb 27, 2020 at 8:16am

story of my life :(

do you?

Feb 27, 2020 at 10:24am

Do you give off bad vibes? I find that people that can't find their 'soul tribe' are usually not living authentically. I obviously don't know you, but this is just from my experience. Are you genuine? Do you try to please other people or do things you think other people are interested in? You gotta lean into yourself, your true self. Whatever it is that makes you YOU. You will attract that 'soul tribe' once you get past what everyone else is doing and focus on what you want.

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it's not them, it's you

Feb 27, 2020 at 10:54am

If ALL of your interactions are going sideways to your expectations, it is absolutely time to get an independent opinion about how to present yourself differently so that your true intentions are understandable. Not questioning your character, intelligence, or appearance - just saying that you have to try something different to get a different result. Good luck! Being alone in this world is neither fun nor practical. Take it from me - there are more of us on that good old spectrum than you think, and new habits can be learnt

Socially awkward

Feb 27, 2020 at 11:10am

It seems like you’re probably just not great at knowing what clues people are sending you. You’re not alone. I believe there are workshops available for people who are socially awkward. Maybe try finding one?

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Christina T

Feb 28, 2020 at 8:51am

Yeah, I’ve felt the same as you and sometimes I still do...what I’m caught between is ‘is it me/am I sending out “bad vibes”/am I negative/unlikeable, etc’ and ‘there’s lots of good people out there I’ve met, or talented artists, writers, musicians who are also socially isolated, so maybe it’s a sign I’m headed for greatness that I’m not able to easily fit into a group’ and the more realistic thoughts are ‘is this a group I even want to fit into? No. So while the outsider feeling sucks, maybe I just need to keep searching for the group that I genuinely want to be included in’...I’ve lived in Vancouver for over 10 years and I just now feel like my work and personal life is lining up with a group I’m excited to be a part of...hope you find some people who make you feel less alone, they’re far and few between, but essential!

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Funny but weird

Feb 28, 2020 at 9:00am

I think people think I’m funny, but I’m still friendless...

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DBT

Feb 28, 2020 at 7:31pm

Once, when I was in a group workshop (precisely to learn how to handle emotions), there was someone who shared that he "knew" that people did not liked him even though he was eager to meet people and make friends. It was evident by his in-person behavior, and through what he shared, that he had not been contributing to making himself be approachable. He recalled going to a party and looking at the floor, and no one talking to him. His answer as to why no one talked to him was evident now: if you act unapproachable, people are not going to approach you. Try something different. Look up, smile. Only when we accept our own flaws can we truly know ourselves and offer real friendship.

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