Narcissus

posted September 29th, 2020 at 11:59 PM

My bf is completely obsessed with his appearance. We’re both seniors, and this obsession of theirs is becoming more than tedious. I’ve known him for 20 years, and he’s always been very vain and self-absorbed, but even though I know that he’s actually very insecure and that’s why he’s so obsessed, it’s still driving me crazy. He’s always asking me to admire his body and tell him how good he looks. He almost never says a thing about my appearance, even though he knows that I’m feeling badly about it due to some serious health setbacks over the past few years, and just normal female aging issues. I’m just not sure how much more of this I can take. I want a guy who has enough depth of character to comprehend that what I’d be more impressed with at this stage of our lives is mental and spiritual growth, and not just how many f’ing push ups he can do.

17 Comments

I know a guy

Sep 30, 2020 at 4:03pm

He sounds like my ex’s father. Comes off so sweet but behind closed doors can be a real savage and obsessed with his appearance. I was told by my ex that his father talked so rudely about his wife behind her back. He called her a stupid little woman and things like that. My ex is headed in a similar direction. Not the smack talk but the flexing. So self obsessed! Glad I dodged that bullet.

Anonymous

Sep 30, 2020 at 5:10pm

Wow, even Vancouver's seniors are vain shallow people? This city...

Stop looking in the mirror and watch where you're going.

Sep 30, 2020 at 7:22pm

"Very good dear, but you know I would love you no matter what you look like, even if your body was covered in third degree burns after tripping into a pool of acid".

A pat on the head followed by a slap upside it. They probably won't say too much, but it may get them thinking a little bit deeper. A kind little nudge in the right direction is usually what anyone really needs.

Unfortunately

Sep 30, 2020 at 8:59pm

When you say you want a guy with more depth... It's that guys like that are not flaunty. They are humble and likely they would have not of 'attracted you' in the first place. Guys who are truly confident do not showboat and they likely fly under your radar. We get what we attract / are attracted too.

Errol Flynn

Oct 1, 2020 at 2:46am

could play chopsticks with his penis. Talent like that combined with beauty equal something worthy of godlike admiration

Not a flower

Oct 1, 2020 at 7:13am

just needed to clarify, because your post title confused me. Narcissus is a flower, a Narcissist is the word you're looking for. :-)

Anonymous

Oct 1, 2020 at 8:55am

Slap on the head didnt work.
Still doesnt get it.
I dont even care.
Friends come and go.
The mask always cracks and falls away.
Say have you ever heard of
The Jeffersons T. V. show theme song ?

Surprised?

Oct 1, 2020 at 9:56am

This confession made me laugh out loud. Did you think a vain, shallow person was magically going to change their personality as they aged? He'd have to have wanted to change and he hasn't wanted to for 20 years apparently and now you're annoyed? lol

@ not a flower

Oct 1, 2020 at 1:08pm

You're wrong, do a Google search. Narcissus is a Greek youth whom narcissism is named after. There are many adjectives in our language pertaining to Greek mythological characters: tantalizing, herculean, sisyphean, jovial, an odyssey, etc.

@ surprised

Oct 1, 2020 at 4:05pm

Its unkind to laugh at anothers persons pain.
Even if they are daft.
Its rude.
Sometimes you can give too many chances to a person not even deserving.
And to the confession poster,
There has to be one person out there that cares about you, willing to stick their neck out for you. Help you out of your bad situation. One
We all need a hand sometime.
Good Luck
Its always darkest before the dawn.