You probably don't know this, which is why I must tell you. It only has been about 5 months since things came to the light about your husbands affair. Before I say anything, if this gets to you, know I am risking everything for your sake. I know he promised never to contact her again, never to see her. He is lying to you. He thinks only of her and how he can be a part of her life again. He returned to you not out of affection but because he is 'doing right by God'. He comes to me telling me how he misses her and wishes to be there for her. How doing certain projects would have their 'added' benefits, how he will miss seeing her after June is over. I don't know anything about your views/ believes but I know that what he is doing is not right. You don't deserve that and neither does she. Just couldn't keep it in any longer. I hope you know you are worth more than what he is giving you. You should leave him and find someone who will be true to you not only to your God.