Most girls I know consider that harassment from guys.

...And men think that exact same thing about women.

Since no one wants to blink first, and most women refuse to ask for what they want, it's quite the interesting chicken-egg problem. Speaking of eggs, perhaps this will be the critical factor to make in-vitro fertilization take off.

Otherwise, seems overpopulation will become less of an issue. May take a while to work itself through (usually several decades), and I personally don't have that kind of patience. In the meantime, there will be far too many frustrated and disenchanted humans around here, bouncing off each other like pinballs.

My best wishes to all participants in this intractable standoff.

This is intended as droll humor, wrapped around a jagged shard of truth. It's quite the recurring theme here. A glorious constant in an ever-changing universe...temporarily, one would hope.

Speak for yourself geek, I never understood why the opposite sex speaks for us and thinks they know how we work. If I spoke about pregnancy it would be wrong. I know it happens but I will never know what it feels like...

"and most women refuse to ask for what they want," Correct, most women lack ambition in B.C. and it kills men because we have to be ambitious otherwise we will end up homeless. I work six days a week and I still have time to mingle, I just get bored with the same routine that life is here. Work work work, sleep. Go to a show, watch women deflect all night, pay tab, sleep. Repeat at the beach, the park, the store. Nothing changes.

I have not met a woman who is single that lives in Vancouver for close to five years nor have I noticed any tell tale signs that a lady is interested or even cares to acknowledge I exist like saying hi or even a simple smile outside of customer service.

When I travel the song is completely different, Smiles, hair toss, flirty eye contact... basically social interaction, some of it is purely fun and some has intent but it is noticeable the second I leave here. I feel like a king outside of bc but a pauper when I come home.

If you remove any social aspect from a mans life, he doesn't grow fonder, he moves on and finds new things to occupy time and it's obvious in Vancouver that most men have simply given up trying to meet women who simply don't want to be met.

It's almost a social faux pas to speak to strangers here but women complain all the time that men never approach. If the sign says closed off, men simply move on. Why waste time when life is short.

Men have woken up the reality that we live in unlike our fathers who simply punched a clock for life and those old school ways are done. Women here have not responded to the call out for being modern and the attitude here says it all. Men do all the work and women wait.

This is not a stand off, a stand off is when two people are not firing bullets at each other, fairly certain some men here are like the u.s. military and fire more bullets at anything that moves. Not the best approach but at least it's effort. I prefer quality over quantity so I save my few remaining shots.

What exactly do women do here to show a man she is single. Where is the flirty body language, smiles, fun banter.?

I just see ghosts in a shell glazing over iPhones updating things...

Those cute guys are usually just too physically exhausted to add another to the rotation, unless your okay with sharing go with the average handsome. If you want to be approached put out those vibes, eye contact body facing them etc.

I have zero interest in a girlfriend. Your ilk have lobbied and gotten so many laws passed that punish men so as to make it not worthwhile.

I've worked my guts out for 20 years to "make it" and now if I have a girlfriend for a year or two,she can take off and I have to give her half my asset's rise in value. My properties and investments have gone up $200k the last couple years..so I'd have to cut her a cheque for $100k.
Seeing as I can't,I'd have to remortgage a property (pay interest,fees,etc) to pay her and her credit card debts off. And more than likely pay her palimony.
Not married,no kids,not even living together.

And you wonder why guys aren't rushing out to end up a wage slave...

Read "giving up" 's confession, and think about the other side. Or better yet, try taking the risk yourself.

@Ghost

Note the humor reference at the bottom of my comment?

My experience is very similar to what you have described, and the standoff is the logical, predictable result of it. The promiscuous men you are referring to (and the corresponding minority of women) who do not honor the standoff, are often players. Ironically, this setup heavily favors them.

All genders are easier prey for the player, when other options are few. This minority is just hungry, and will keep trying for desirable targets, until they succeed and satisfy themselves. The next time they're hungry, the same sequence repeats.

If one sits still long enough, a predator will come along. The way it is now, initiative from men is usually treated harshly, and met with hostility or indifference; and initiative from women is vanishingly rare. Thus, only the hungry, the truly desperate, and the thick-skinned (less sensitive) will make advances, repeatedly, until successful.

Seems self-evident to me. Maybe not to everyone else.

IF you choose wisely, you never have to worry about splitting your assets.
so the "girlfriend" you speak of is just an indication of your poor head making the wrong choice.
Is the problem really her or You?

Why would i approach you?? lol get over yourself...

I smile at cute girls all the time but that doesn't mean I want to have anything to do with them. I'll wait for that rare beauty who kills me with her gaze. Then its worth the effort and all the bs that comes with it.