Ending a Relationship

I've never had a breakup end this way before. He's moving away for work and we're ending things with nothing but love and respect. All of my other breakups had something to be mad at (even if it was something small to hate on) which makes moving on a bit easier. This time I'm just so incredible sad because it's no one's fault and we have nothing but love between us. Our relationship was the first unselfish love I've ever felt, because I know this move is the best thing for him and can't wait to see where this takes him in life. All of my sadness stems from me being selfish and in the end I know I'll be okay.

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Nothing but love, huh?

Jul 17, 2019 at 5:56pm

I wouldn't be going anywhere without the person I'm in love with, but that's just me. Wild horses couldn't drag me away.

John titor

Jul 17, 2019 at 6:23pm

Go with him

Seems

Jul 18, 2019 at 1:42am

If you bloody loved him so much, you might go with him.. Being that your so moved and saddened by him leaving.
Troll

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Anonymous

Jul 18, 2019 at 5:05am

I once had to 'breakup' with someone where our relationship was originally defined as a FWB type of thing for the duration of my 'real' relationship breakup. Unfortunately when the time came to end things I really cared for them, and I think they cared for me too. It was quite painful to have to end something that was going so well. Years later I still feel only good about them and about what we had. Maybe it's actually a blessing to end on a 'good note'.

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if you loved the other person

Jul 18, 2019 at 5:07am

wouldnt you want to move with them?

Anonymous

Jul 18, 2019 at 10:38am

I recently had a similar ending (although very different circumstances). In some ways it is easier because you feel so good about the purity and beauty of your feelings for each other, in other ways it's harder...but ultimately I think we should all strive to, as Dan Savage says, leave each other better than we found each other ( campsite rule). Good luck in your healing and hold on to all the good memories. I like to think about how lovely it is that there is someone floating around in the world that I have felt this way about (and had it reciprocated) and that even though we can't be together, it is wonderful to know that.

You are awesome

Jul 18, 2019 at 10:42am

Such a great confession. It sounds like what you are going through is very painful, but you are handling it with the utmost of grace and maturity. This, to me, is what real love looks like.

You WILL be okay *internet hugs*. Wishing you all the very best.

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OG Poster

Jul 18, 2019 at 1:52pm

To the person who called me a troll for not moving with him it's not as simple as me uprooting my whole life for another person because I've never been the type of person to make someone else my life, but rather have that person enrich my life. My career and family are here and I would never put that kind of pressure on another person to be my everything because I had to give up everything else for them.

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@OG Poster

Jul 18, 2019 at 6:26pm

It's not about giving up everything, it's about moving forward as a unit, a new adventure , for both of you. If you can't see it like that, then stay single.

Maybe...

Jul 19, 2019 at 8:59am

...he didn't want her to follow and this was his way of breaking up. A lot of my world traveller mates do it....

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