A first
posted July 10th, 2021 at 8:14 PM
A gentleman I began seeing confessed he was married on our third date. Though he insisted it was just a “formality”, I have zero interest in any type of adultery, so I ran away as fast as I could. No regrets about doing so, but I am still sad as he was the first person I could see myself falling for in quite a while. Thanks again, dating apps.
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Jul 11, 2021 at 7:15am
he might have said that because either (a) he decided you weren't right for him and that was a way to get rid of you w/o having to hurt your feelings, or (b) he wanted to be able to use you for sex but keep you from trying to become anything serious and/or keep you from coming over to his place.
Huh?
Jul 11, 2021 at 9:23am
You’re not committing adultery if you’re not married. Technically I suppose he is, but if he’s legally separated then it really is just a formality. My ex and I were legally separated for 5 years and both of us were in new relationships before we bothered with actually getting a divorce, and that was only because one of us wanted to get married to the new person. So I think you made a rush to judgement here that you probably shouldn’t have.
So Sad
Jul 11, 2021 at 10:28am
What a tragedy, a Liar on a dating app.
There are plenty of us Single Men out here looking for A Honest and Real women.
Real People for Real People.
Don't be Shy say Hi.
Peace
A “gentleman”
Jul 11, 2021 at 2:34pm
would not tell you this on the 3rd date. Not a gentleman in any sense of the word, this dude.
I feel for ya
Jul 11, 2021 at 9:13pm
I got involved with someone who insisted “ it’s been over for years” and that they decided to sleep with other people.... and boy did I learn. People can be very deceptive.
Mine said
Jul 11, 2021 at 10:02pm
they were living in the same house for financial reasons but he had his own separate suite in the basement . Months later I saw that there was no suite in the basement and it seemed he always had to be home for the dinner hour.
Anonymous
Jul 11, 2021 at 11:56pm
Men!! Why do they have to be such... men!!!
Kudos for being true to you.
Jul 12, 2021 at 12:45am
You deserve so much more than to play silly games with little boys. And sadly, they're a dime a dozen. A word of unsolicited advice? Ditch the dating apps. They magnetically attract creepy cheaters just hoping to latch on to their next victim.
But seriously…
Jul 12, 2021 at 6:13pm
Did you actually ask him if he was legally separated ? Because if he is, that’s almost as good as being divorced other than a very easily arranged piece of paper. You haven’t elaborated so I guess we’ll never know.
Legalities
Jul 13, 2021 at 1:32pm
Many people do not know that the government won't let you legally divorce unless you have been separated for at least a year.
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